What it's like coming out as a black man when people see it as a 'white thing'. I still remember my mum saying that to me. But I was 23 and still living at home, and I had no idea my mum had been listening through the door. I remember feeling so scared in that moment.

As a black gay man, I am constantly reduced to outdated, racist stereotypes when online dating



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Matovu, 26, injected him with a fatal dose of GHB at his home in Chessington, Surrey, then made off with his bank cards. Mr Michels, who had a role in Skyfall, was one of 12 men targeted by Matovu and his lover Brandon Dunbar, 24 — over a month period, jurors heard. At Matovu's murder trial, prosecutor Jonathan Rees QC told how the defendants took advantage of Grindr hook-ups to steal property and bank details. On the evening of August 16 last year, divorced father-of-three Mr Michels made contact with Matovu on Grindr after a night out in Soho gay bars.


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Republish our articles for free, online or in print, under Creative Commons licence. Gay and bisexual men are four times more likely to attempt suicide in their lifetime than heterosexual men. Researchers now estimate that suicide kills more gay and bisexual men than AIDS.
Now, they are completely normalised among young people and can be a great tool to use in meeting potential romantic partners. But for many non-white people, online dating can be a a traumatic experience rather than a fun, positive one. As a black gay male, I find dating apps to be a space filled with micro-aggressions and racist sexual stereotyping. Today, the commodification of black people takes place through two avenues; on the one hand a desire and love for our culture and on the other, a form of hatred — portrayed in how black people are treated in society. The usual tropes of criminal, gangster rapper, absent father and womaniser belies the existence of men who are well-rounded and have a lot to offer.